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Vacation Sex | Realizing Fantasies and How Getting Away Could Open You Up!

Let's explore how to turn up the heat and get the most out of your vacation. ...and keep it hot when you get home!


Kenneth Erickson


Feb 25, 2023

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Vacation Sex | Fantasies, Opening Up, and Connecting With Your Partner

Evert wonder why vacation sex is more intense and exciting than sex stuck at home going through the normal grind? Even if you are having a "stay-cation", you really can't compare the two.

Now, we're not saying your 'everyday' sex (you wish!) shouldn't be as good as get-a-way sex, but there seems to be reasons why our brains and bodies let us dip into our more exotic and erotic desires when we're away from home.

What happens on vacation stays on vacation

Thanks a lot Vegas! You've given us all a hall pass on acting on our deeper and more honest desires when we're away from home. We all have desires, after all and it's nothing to be ashamed or embarrassed about! But, for some reason it seems more acceptable to act on them when it's away from the reality of our everyday lives.

And you know what, that kinda makes things even more exciting! Right?!?

The newness, risk, adventurousness... however you want to look at it, the thought of living out a fantasy in real life that only existed in your head up till this point can be a huge turn on.

The scary thing is wondering if your partner is on the same page as you and has similar adventurous and erotic thoughts?

This is where communication, trust, and honesty can really be tested.

Has anyone every asked you what you want sexually? Hopefully someone has, but how did you answer? What went through your mind?

All the things you've thought of trying popped into your head, but what did you do with the moment? You may have just said f$*K it and put it all out there, not worrying about your partners reaction or the possibility of shocking or scaring them off, or more likely, you filtered your response to something more vanilla and mainstream acceptable.

Why Vacation Sex Can Get You More Turned On

There's actually a psychological basis for people being more open to experimenting sexually while on vacation compared to their normal lives at home, in case you didn't already know.

Several experts and researchers in the fields of psychology, sexuality, and relationship studies have shed light on the phenomenon of increased sexual experimentation and openness during vacations. A couple of the most notable experts in this area are Esther Perel and Justin Lehmiller.

Dr. Esther Perel: A psychotherapist and author, Dr. Perel is known for her work on human relationships and sexuality, particularly regarding how couples can sustain desire and eroticism in long-term relationships. Her insights are valuable in understanding how novel experiences and settings can rekindle intimacy.

We all have imaginative resources that allow us to play and be curious, to go beyond our lived experience, and to ask ourselves: what would it look and feel like to be intimate together in a different way? All it requires is a foundation of communication, playful exploration of yourself and others, and a willingness to try. -Dr. Esther Perel

Dr. Justin Lehmiller: A social psychologist and research fellow at The Kinsey Institute, Dr. Lehmiller specializes in human sexuality and is known for his work on sexual fantasies, which can be particularly relevant when discussing the exploration of new sexual experiences on vacation. may be in a totally different and more relaxed mindset than usual because you’re away from work for a while. This can open the door to feeling aroused because you’ve temporarily escaped a potent source of distraction and stress. Related to this, you may have cues at home that either induce stress or inhibit arousal, such as having all of your work stuff in your bedroom or reminders of things you need to do around the house, such as piles of laundry—and those cues disappear while you’re away. - Dr.Justin Lehmiller
There’s also the fact that traveling somewhere else can provide a sense of psychological freedom in the sense that nobody else there knows you. In this way, travel affords a unique opportunity to be someone new—to explore a different side of yourself or recreate yourself in that environment. Travel can also provide some sense of freedom from judgment—what happens on your trip can stay on your trip and nobody at home (friends, roommates, etc.) has to know. As they say, “what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas,” right? - Dr. Justin Lehmiller

These experts have offered a range of perspectives from psychological, sociological, anthropological, and sexological  contributing to a holistic understanding of why, you and your partner might feel more liberated to explore your sexuality while on vacation.

Some of the reasons this sexual puzzle could come together while away are:

  1. Change of Environment: Being in a new or different environment can psychologically distance you from your everyday roles and responsibilities. This change can make you and your person feel more liberated and open to exploration.
  2. Anonymity and Privacy: Vacations often provide a sense of anonymity, especially when traveling to a place no one knows you! This can reduce fears of judgment or social repercussions, allowing you both to explore aspects of your sexuality you might otherwise be embarrassed or hesitant to around home.
  3. Reduced Stress and Increased Relaxation: Vacations typically offer a break from the stresses of daily life, including work, chores, and routine responsibilities. This reduction in stress and a more relaxed state of mind can enhance libido and openness to sexual exploration.
  4. Novelty and Adventure: Vacations are often associated with new experiences and adventures. This novelty-seeking behavior can extend to sexual experiences. The human brain is stimulated by novelty, which can increase dopamine levels, enhancing sexual interest and excitement.
  5. Quality Time with Partner: Vacations provide you with uninterrupted time together, which can strengthen your emotional connection. This increased intimacy can lead to a greater willingness to share fantasies and try new sexual experiences.
  6. Mental Disinhibition: The combination of a new setting, relaxation, and perhaps even a few cocktails, can lower inhibitions, making you more open to experimenting with things the two of you might not consider in your regular environment.
  7. Inspiration from the Environment: The environment itself, whether it's a romantic beach, a luxurious hotel room, or the excitement of a new city, can inspire desire and experimentation.
  8. Absence of Social Networks: Being away from the familiar social circle and the accompanying expectations can allow you to express parts of your identity, including sexual aspects, that you might feel the need to suppress at home.

So basically, the mind, body, location, and maybe a couple of drinks all seem to come together to ignite some deeper urges in you and give you guys the courage to have fun!

How to have Great Vacation sex

We'd like to assume there's already some basic prerequisites existing between you and your partner that allow for some amazing and mind blowing vacation sex, but that may not always be the case. Don't despair though. Where one thing may be lacking, there's an opportunity to make it up in other areas. Each factor is not created equally and some things may be more important to you or your partner.

Knowing what get's you revved up is only half the battle though. You also need to know what gets your partner's heart rate accelerating! And finally, how to put all those pieces together so that the two of you share something you've only ever thought about in the safety of your own mind.

Sound like fun??? Let's start with the basics then move into specific suggestions.

The Importance of a Strong Relationship

A strong relationship and committed love are essential for an enduring partnership, but they can't be understated when it comes to broadening out on sexual needs and desires.

Jealously is a natural part of relationships. In the right amounts, it can be healthy and endearing, but too much and it can create rifts doubt, and resentment.

This can be a very trickly balance for many of us. The best way to stay ahead of it is to always put your partner first and make sure that they know there is nobody you want more as a lover and partner than them. Life, sex, and love are best when shared between the two of you, no matter what else happens. They need to be your center first and foremost.

The Foundation of Great Sex

Having great sex involves a combination of physical, emotional, and psychological factors. Understanding these and incorporating them into your relationship, or connecting them with your partner, can open the door to some new and exciting adventures! The factors can be further broken down into these seven areas:

1. Communication: As always this is #1 and for good reason, open and honest communication is essential. You've got to discuss likes, dislikes, desires, and boundaries with each other. If you don't express yourself, then your partner will never really know what you want. If you're hoping they'll assume correctly, you're bound to be disappointed. Much more on this below, including tips and tricks to opening up about sexual thoughts and wants!

2. Willingness and Comfort: You can imagine, without mutual comfort and willingness, the excitement goes right out the door. If one partner is significantly more excited than the other, this could be a bit of a red flag. This is why the overall communication and understanding/agreement is so important to sustainable exploration.

Just make sure you're both clear and honest about what you want to try or whatever it is you're discussing. Don't do anything only for your partner just because they really, really want it. When you agree to try or explore, do it for yourself or it just won't work and resentment could come into play.

3. Emotional Connection: Emotional intimacy enhances the experience. No doubt about it! Feeling connected and in tune with your partner just deepens the experience. You also need this before pushing into any unexplored sexual territory. A healthy and deep emotional connection makes for a much more intense and pleasurable sexual experience.

How do you enhance an emotional connection? Make sure your person feels important and special in your relationship. You put them before friends, work, hobbies, etc... YOU also remember that these things are important to your partner. The right balance here shows support and appreciation for your partners needs. When you also add in routine quality time, affection, and support... you should be doing pretty well in the emotional connection department.

4. Safety and Trust: This should be a no brainer. Feeling safe and trusting your partner can allow you to relax and be more open during sexual experiences. You can achieve this by not forcing or demanding anything. This must be part of your relationship as a whole anyway. Pretty straight forward.

5. Experimentation and Openness to New Experiences: Being willing to try new things and explore together can keep your sexual relationship exciting and fulfilling. Just because you've never done something before, never though of something before, or possibly even heard of something before, doesn't necessarily mean you wouldn't enjoy it.

Get informed. Discuss it. Role play it if your able and it makes sense to do so. Understand the possible pitfalls in some casual relaxed conversation together. Remember, part of the fun is the lead up, but you both need to know what you're getting into. We're not saying you need to study for finals, just know what to expect, and ideally, what to look forward to!

6. Adequate Time and Relaxing Environment: Ensuring you have enough time and a comfortable, private space can enhance the experience. This is part of why you're taking the vacation!

7. Mutual Respect: Respecting each other's wishes, boundaries, and personhood is key to a positive and healthy sexual experience. At the end of the day, if you or your partner knows that they can say no or call off anything at anytime without you getting mad or upset, they may more willing to give it a try.

Remember, what constitutes "great sex" can vary greatly from person to person. It's about finding what works best for you and your partner through some honest open dialogue and a strong relationship foundation! Remember, keep it light and fun!!!

Talking to Your Partner about Your Sexual Desires

As we get older our sexual desire and thoughts change for a number of reasons. The thoughts of sex we had when sex itself was a new experience aren't quite the same or as exciting years or decades later. We need more or new "first" experiences to recapture the original excitement of our first time.

It takes, typically, two to tango, so how do you know if your person wants the same thing you do?

Discussing expectations, desires, and fantasies before planning your vacation can ensure that you both have your needs and wishes considered. This conversation can also help to align expectations and make the vacation enjoyable for both. It's essential to approach desires with an open mind and a willingness to compromise or try new things.

Effective communication, like we mentioned, is especially important when it comes to intimacy. You may not be sure how to be fully open and honest with your partner, so we've put together some suggestions on how to get things started.

Tips for easing into the conversation

Use Books or Articles: Try sharing a book, article, or online resource about a particular topic and use it as a conversation starter. When you find the right article containing a nice list of fantasies to consider, playfully send it to your partner and suggest that they pick one! Do this only if you think it will be received in the playful manner that was intended. Timing is important. Be sure to ease in to the conversation when you are both a little turned on and less inhibited.

This article from the Guardian or this one from Glamour are a couple to check out, and for books, Tell Me What You Want and Come As You Are are worth a look!

Play a Question Game: Play a "question game" where you take turns asking and answering questions about desires and fantasies. You can start off by telling your partner how amazing they are and how turned on you get when you think of them. Drop that you always imagine them in all of your fantasies when you masturbate. The combination of them picturing you pleasuring yourself and wondering what you are thinking about is very likely to trigger some questions. Be ready to have them share something the two of you have never tried before, but have wanted to try.

Use Indirect References: Sometimes it's easier to start talking about a scenario or story in a movie or a book and then transition to how it relates to your own thoughts and feelings. Fifty Shades of Grey, or similar movies or magazine and website articles can definitely give you some things to talk about and possibly open up or explore.

Write it Down: If verbal communication is challenging, consider writing letters or notes to each other expressing your thoughts. Turn it into a game! Go old school and pass a note. Check Yes or No, remember those?!? Start small with something tame-ish and work your way up as the mood allows.

Shared Online Quizzes: There are online quizzes designed for couples to explore their sexual preferences, like this one from These can be a fun and informative way to learn about each other's interests.

There are other easy ways to test the waters if you haven't already done so:

Fantasy / Dirty Talk: Incorporating fantasy into the bedroom is an easy way to test the waters. Gradually adding visuals and thoughts into sex through fantasy let's you see how your partner reacts to the "fantasy". Even if the reaction is less than a full on, "Yes! Let's try try that!" The idea is now out there and that thought will continue to percolate in the safety of your partner's own mind.

Couples aren't always exactly on the same page or timeline when it comes to sexual exploration, and you may have had months or years thinking about something before you finally worked up the courage to share it. So, be patient and allow a little time to process and get used to ideas that maybe new and different than what your partner is used to. Worst case scenario, they're not down with it, but you at least put it out there. It's important not to pressure and let things evolve naturally and as they will.

Ask your partner what they want: Just as important as opening up about what you want, make sure to involve your partner and be receptive to their needs. It's possible they're where you were some time ago, and are a bit shy, embarrassed, or scared to be open about the things they want or think about. Create a safe space and never judge. Always reaffirm your love. They'll open up when they're ready or possibly open up via you're thoughts and conversations by going along and enjoying the ride without actually driving.

Enjoy getting out of your sexual comfort zone

Why did we go through all this preamble leading up to vacation sex? It's because it can mean a whole bunch of different things to different people depending on their personalities, relationships, sexual desires, name it! Honestly, the sky's the limit. There's tons of options out there.

Let's face it, if people didn't have forbidden thoughts and sexual desires, porn would not exist. And as we all know, it definitely exits and is here to stay.

The idea of being on vacation often brings the assumption that sex is on the table and can be assumed will happen. This removes the first part of any sexual barrier, which is wondering if sex is a possibility.

If we can assume you both are wanting it, this frees up the imagination about just what you two may be willing to try...?

Vanilla Sex to ...all the flavors - Should you experiment with something different?

What actually does Vanilla mean in regards to sex?

"Vanilla" in the context of sexual relationships or activities refers to conventional or traditional sexual practices. It's often used to describe sex that is considered standard or lacking in any unusual or kinky elements.

The term is not a negative one; it simply implies a preference for more straightforward, perhaps more romantically inclined sexual activities, as opposed to practices that might be considered fetishistic or adventurous. The use of "vanilla" in this context comes from the flavor vanilla being common and popular, yet often considered plain or basic in comparison to more exotic flavors.

Transitioning from "vanilla" to more exotic or adventurous sexual activities involves gradually introducing elements that are outside of conventional, straightforward sexual practices. It's important to note that what may be considered adventurous varies greatly among individuals, and consent and communication between partners are paramount in these explorations.

Where are you and where is your partner when looking for something sweet!?! These are some examples of vanilla and beyond:


  1. Traditional intercourse
  2. Oral sex
  3. Romantic, gentle lovemaking

Mildly Adventurous:

  1. Trying different positions beyond the basics
  2. Light bondage (such as using silk scarves for restraints)
  3. Role-playing or dressing up
  4. Sensory play, such as blindfolding

Moderately Adventurous:

  1. More elaborate bondage and discipline (B&D)
  2. Dominance and submission (D&S) play, involving power dynamics
  3. Use of sex toys for enhanced stimulation
  4. Spanking or other forms of mild impact play

Highly Adventurous/Exotic:

  1. Advanced BDSM (Bondage, Discipline, Sadism, Masochism) activities
  2. Consensual non-consent scenarios
  3. Public play or exhibitionism within safe and consensual boundaries
  4. Fetish exploration, such as latex or leather play

Extreme or Highly Specialized:

  1. Edge play (practices considered risky or edgy, like breath control)
  2. Complex forms of restraint or suspension
  3. Advanced role-playing scenarios or lifestyle D&S

Including multiple partners, such as threesomes or group sex, in sexual activities can fit at various points on the spectrum from vanilla to adventurous, depending on how it's approached and the context in which it occurs. Here's a breakdown:

Lifestyle - Moderately Adventurous:

  1. Threesomes: Introducing a third partner into sexual activities can be seen as a step beyond vanilla, especially if it's a new experience for the participants. This can include any gender combination and can range from a one-time experience to a more regular arrangement.
  2. Swinging: This involves couples exchanging partners with other couples in a consensual and often social setting. Swinging can be seen as a way to explore sexual diversity while remaining in a committed relationship.

Lifestyle - Highly Adventurous/Exotic:

  1. Group Sex: Engaging in sexual activities with more than two partners simultaneously can be considered more adventurous. This could involve larger groups and may include a variety of sexual activities.
  2. Orgies: Similar to group sex, orgies involve multiple participants but are often characterized by a more free-form and less structured approach to sexual encounters. They can involve large numbers of people.

Lifestyle - Specialized or Niche:

  1. Polyamory: While not solely focused on sex (as it includes emotional and romantic aspects), polyamorous relationships that involve multiple romantic partners can intersect with more adventurous sexual practices.
  2. Sex Parties or Clubs: Attending specialized clubs or parties where sexual activity is a primary focus can be considered more niche and adventurous. These settings often encourage exploration of various sexual interests and may include BDSM elements, fetish play, exhibitionism, etc.

The level of adventurousness is often dictated not just by the activity itself but also by the attitudes, experiences, and comfort levels of the participants. For some, a threesome might be a mild step into adventurous territory, while for others, it could represent a significant leap. As always, preferences and perceptions can vary greatly among people.

As you move along this spectrum, it's vital to be comfortable, consenting, and aware of safe practices. Open and honest communication, setting boundaries, and respecting limits are crucial at every stage. You'll never really know how you'll feel or react to a situation until it's actually happening, so make sure to just take it slow and always enjoy the journey.

Connecting with like minded people

If it turns out you really, really enjoyed yourself and you're interested in expanding your experiences, this is how you can meet others interested in the same thing!

  1. Online Dating and Networking Platforms: Websites and apps dedicated to specific lifestyles, like swinging or BDSM, can be useful. These platforms often have stringent privacy policies and offer various ways to connect with others who share similar interests. Examples include FetLife for the BDSM community, and swinger-specific sites or apps like Feeld, SDC (Swingers Date Club), or Kasidie.
  2. Social Media Groups: Some social media platforms have groups or communities where individuals can discuss their interests, share experiences, and sometimes arrange meet-ups. These groups often have rules to ensure respectful and safe interactions.
  3. Clubs and Bars: Some cities have clubs or bars that cater to specific sexual lifestyles, offering a space for like-minded individuals to meet and socialize. These establishments usually have a set of rules and guidelines to ensure a safe environment for everyone. Just search for locations close to your area!
  4. Word of Mouth and Community Referrals: Sometimes, joining communities or groups can start through personal referrals. Engaging in discussions with like-minded individuals may lead to recommendations and invitations to private events or groups.

But, since we're talking about vacations, for those interested in exploring just the two of you and your relationship in a romantic environment or if you're interested in sexual lifestyle activities, there are several destinations, resorts, and events that cater to various preferences and interests, like these here:

1. Caribbean Resorts

  • Sandals La Source Grenada: Part of a collection of adults-only, all-inclusive Caribbean resorts, Sandals La Source in Grenada offers a relaxed environment with various amenities, focusing on romantic and intimate experiences​​.

2. Specialized Resorts

  • Desire Riviera Maya Resort: Located in Mexico, this resort is specifically tailored for uninhibited and erotically adventurous couples, offering an environment where open sexual activity is a norm. It's known for its liberal atmosphere and opportunities for erotic exploration​​.
  • Hidden Beach Resort Riviera Maya: Also in Mexico, this resort is clothing-optional and considered one of the best adults-only resorts. It provides an environment where guests can socialize in the nude or swimwear, catering to those who enjoy naturism or a more liberated vacation experience​​.

3. Swinger and Adult-Themed Cruises

  • Specialized travel agents such as, Topless Travel, Dream Pleasure Tours, and Erotic Adult Travel offer cruises designed for swingers or those interested in sexual lifestyle activities. These cruises often feature themed parties, workshops, and opportunities for socializing with like-minded individuals​​.

4. Adults-Only Resorts with Special Themes

  • Hedonism II in Negril, Jamaica: This resort is known for its liberal environment, featuring a private nude beach, anything-goes toga parties, and a focus on sensual and erotic experiences. While not exclusively for swingers, it provides ample opportunities for adult-oriented fun and socialization​​.

These destinations and events offer environments where you can explore your sexuality in safe, controlled settings. It's important for anyone interested in these activities to thoroughly research the options, understand the specific rules and guidelines of each destination or event, and always prioritize consent and mutual respect in all interactions!!!

Choosing a Destination: Intimate Vacation Locations

For those romantic destinations that are less lifestyle focused and for couples seeking exclusive sand and water destinations in 2024, there are several luxurious and secluded spots around the world that offer pristine beaches, crystal-clear waters, and exceptional service. These destinations are known for their exclusivity, offering privacy and a high level of comfort and elegance:

  1. The Brando, Tetiaroa, French Polynesia: This ultra-exclusive resort on a private island once owned by Marlon Brando offers untouched beaches, luxurious villas, and a commitment to sustainability.
  2. North Island, Seychelles: A private island resort known for its exclusive villas, stunning beaches, and personalized service. It's a favorite among celebrities seeking privacy and luxury.
  3. Amanpulo, Pamalican Island, Philippines: Accessible only by private plane, Amanpulo is a secluded haven offering unmatched privacy, white sand beaches, and coral reefs in a serene setting.
  4. Fregate Island Private, Seychelles: Another private island in the Seychelles, Fregate Island (reopening in 2025) offers luxurious villas, seven dreamy beaches, and the opportunity to dine anywhere on the island.
  5. Necker Island, British Virgin Islands: Sir Richard Branson's private island is synonymous with exclusive luxury. The island can be rented out for ultimate privacy or couples can stay during one of its "Celebration Weeks."
  6. Soneva Jani, Maldives: Known for its overwater villas with retractable roofs, Soneva Jani in the Maldives provides a unique blend of luxury and sustainability amidst the stunning beauty of the Indian Ocean.
  7. Como Parrot Cay, Turks and Caicos: This award-winning resort on a private island offers mile-long beaches, world-class dining, and a range of wellness and adventure activities.
  8. Cheval Blanc Randheli, Maldives: This exclusive resort in the Maldives is known for its privacy, stunning design, and exceptional service, offering a luxury experience in a spectacular setting.
  9. Laucala Island, Fiji: A private island resort set amidst coconut plantations, sandy beaches, and rich green mountains. It offers luxury villas, organic farms, and a range of natural and cultural activities.
  10. Velaa Private Island, Maldives: This exclusive resort combines luxury with privacy, offering villas with private pools, personalized service, and a stunning marine environment.
  11. Nihi Sumba, Indonesia: This remote resort on the island of Sumba offers a unique cultural experience combined with luxury, known for its world-class surfing, exclusive villas, and commitment to sustainability.

Each of these destinations offers an escape into a world of luxury, natural beauty, and tranquility, making them perfect for couples looking for an exclusive and romantic beach vacation. They stand out for their private settings, exceptional amenities, and commitment to providing a unique and unforgettable experience.

Cost Conscious Vacation Destinations

Getting away is the most important thing and if it means not going quite as exclusive then that's totally ok! There are lots of more affordable destinations that offer the allure of a dreamy vacation without breaking the bank. Some of the more affordable destinations for a beautiful and romantic setting in 2024 are:

  1. Zanzibar, Tanzania: Known for its stunning beaches and rich cultural heritage, Zanzibar offers affordable accommodation options, beautiful turquoise waters, and a chance to explore historic Stone Town.
  2. Palawan, Philippines: With its crystal-clear waters, limestone cliffs, and lush greenery, Palawan is a paradise for nature-loving couples. There are plenty of budget-friendly resorts and activities.
  3. Koh Rong, Cambodia: This island offers pristine beaches with a more laid-back and less commercialized atmosphere. Accommodations range from budget bungalows to more upscale resorts.
  4. Tulum, Mexico: Known for its beautiful beaches and Mayan ruins, Tulum has a range of affordable accommodation options. It's a great mix of culture, relaxation, and natural beauty.
  5. Goa, India: Famous for its scenic beaches and vibrant nightlife, Goa is a popular destination for couples looking for an affordable beach vacation. It offers a variety of budget-friendly accommodations and dining options.
  6. Crete, Greece: As the largest of the Greek islands, Crete offers beautiful beaches, historic sites, and a taste of Greek culture at more affordable prices compared to some of the other Greek islands.
  7. Costa Rica's Caribbean Coast: While Costa Rica is known for its rainforests, its Caribbean coast offers beautiful and less crowded beaches. Towns like Puerto Viejo offer affordable lodging and a relaxed atmosphere.
  8. Dominican Republic: Known for its all-inclusive resorts, the Dominican Republic also has budget-friendly options. Punta Cana and Puerto Plata are popular destinations with beautiful beaches and a variety of activities.
  9. Bali, Indonesia: Bali remains a favorite for couples with its enchanting landscapes, beaches, and culture. While it has upscale resorts, there are also many affordable accommodation options, especially if you venture outside the main tourist areas.
  10. Algarve, Portugal: Known for its stunning coastline, the Algarve offers golden beaches and charming towns. While it's a popular tourist destination, there are still affordable options for accommodation and dining.

These destinations offer a mix of beautiful beaches, cultural experiences, and romantic settings, all while being accessible to couples on a budget. It's important to book in advance, consider traveling during the shoulder season for better deals, and explore local dining and activity options to further stretch your budget.

What should you bring on your get-a-way? Lingerie, toys, etc...

There are some things you may want to consider packing for your vacation to create the mood and enhance the sexual experience for yourself and your partner. Preparing for a romantic and/or sexually fulfilling vacation involves packing items that can create the right mood and enhance the experience for both of you. Let's look at some ideas and places to shop!


Shopping for sexy outfits, beachwear, and bedroom wear for a romantic tropical vacation can be a fun and exciting part of your trip planning. There are a variety of stores and online retailers that offer a wide range of styles to suit different tastes and budgets.

For Women:

  1. Victoria's Secret: Known for lingerie and sleepwear, Victoria's Secret also offers a selection of swimwear and beach cover-ups.
  2. Agent Provocateur: A high-end lingerie brand offering a range of sexy lingerie and swimwear, perfect for a romantic getaway.
  3. ASOS: This online retailer has a vast selection of beachwear, lingerie, and casual wear in a variety of sizes and styles.
  4. Zaful: For more budget-friendly options, this online store offer a wide range of trendy and sexy swimwear and summer dresses.
  5. Lululemon or Athleta: Great for comfortable yet stylish activewear that can double as casual beachwear.
  6. Nordstrom or Bloomingdale's: Department stores with a wide variety of brands and styles, including designer swimwear and lingerie.

For Men:

  1. Bonobos or Chubbies: These brands are popular for their stylish and comfortable swimwear and casual summer wear.
  2. Calvin Klein: Offers a range of underwear and loungewear that can be perfect for the bedroom.
  3. Tommy Bahama: Known for tropical-themed casual wear, perfect for a beach vacation.
  4. ASOS or H&M: These retailers offer affordable and fashionable swim trunks, shorts, and casual shirts suitable for a tropical setting.
  5. Lululemon or Under Armour: For men who prefer active wear that is both functional and stylish.

When shopping, consider the climate of your destination, the activities you plan to do, and your personal style preferences. It's also a good idea to check the return policies, especially when ordering online, to ensure a good fit. Remember, confidence is key in any outfit, so choose pieces that make you feel comfortable and attractive.

Adult Toys, Novelties, and Enhancers

When it comes to purchasing adult novelty toys and sex games, there are several reputable websites that offer a wide range of products to enhance the sexual experience for couples. These websites are known for their discretion, quality products, and customer service.

The Top 10 places for adult toys and accessories are:

1. Lovehoney: Widely regarded as one of the largest online retailers for sex toys and erotic merchandise, Lovehoney offers an extensive range of products, including toys, lingerie, and games specifically designed for couples.

2. Adam & Eve: One of the oldest and most reputable companies in the industry, Adam & Eve provides a vast selection of adult toys, games, and accessories, along with a guarantee for discretion in shipping and billing.

3. LELO: Known for its high-end, luxury sex toys, LELO is ideal for couples looking for premium quality and innovative design. Their products are known for their sophistication and effectiveness.

4. Good Vibrations: This is a trusted retailer that offers a wide variety of sex toys, books, and educational materials. They are known for promoting sexual health and satisfaction.

5. Babeland: Renowned for its friendly and inclusive approach, Babeland offers a variety of sex toys, books, and workshops, with a focus on education and quality.

6. PinkCherry: PinkCherry is known for its extensive range of products, competitive pricing, and frequent sales. They offer a mix of popular and high-end brands.

7. We-Vibe: Specializing in couples' vibrators and toys that can be controlled via app, We-Vibe is a great choice for tech-savvy couples looking for a connected experience.

8. Fleshlight: Best known for its male masturbatory products, Fleshlight also offers a range of products for couples, including interactive toys that can be used together.

9. Ann Summers: A UK-based retailer that offers a wide range of lingerie, sex toys, and erotic games. They are well-known for their playful and adventurous products.

10. Honey Birdette: This Australian brand offers a luxurious range of lingerie and high-end toys for couples, combining style with eroticism.

It's important to choose a reputable retailer to ensure the quality and safety of the products. Most of these websites also offer resources and guides to help couples choose the best products for their needs and preferences. Remember to check the shipping and return policies, and consider privacy options if discretion is a concern.

Building the Vacation Excitement

Building excitement and anticipation ahead of a sexy couples vacation can enhance the overall experience and deepen your connection. Create a sense of excitement and look forward to your getaway!

  1. Try Sharing Teasers and Hints: Exchange messages or notes that hint at what you're looking forward to during the vacation. This could include suggestive or flirtatious comments, or hints about surprises you have planned.
  2. Sexy Shopping Spree: Go shopping together (or individually and then reveal your purchases) for new lingerie, swimwear, or other special attire for the trip. This can be both fun and arousing.
  3. Exchange Fantasy Lists: Share lists of fantasies or desires you each hope to explore during the vacation. This can spark conversations and build anticipation.
  4. Send Seductive Messages: In the days leading up to the trip, send each other seductive texts or emails. These can range from subtly flirtatious to overtly erotic, depending on your comfort levels.
  5. Pre-Vacation Date Night: Have a special date night before you leave for your trip where you can express your excitement and discuss what you're most looking forward to.

Building excitement is all about engaging your imaginations and emotions before the trip begins. It sets the stage for a memorable and intimate experience, strengthening your bond as a couple. Remember, the key is to maintain a balance between planning and spontaneity to keep the excitement alive.


As we wrap up our journey through the tantalizing world of romantic and sexual vacations, let's remember that the ultimate destination is not just about the places we visit, but the intimate moments we create. Whether you're basking under the sun on a secluded beach, cuddling by a cozy fire in a mountain retreat, or exploring the hidden corners of a bustling city, every moment holds the potential for passion.

Think of your vacation as a canvas, where your desires and fantasies are the vibrant colors waiting to be painted. From the playful teasing of a flirty note tucked into a suitcase, to the heart-racing thrill of a new erotic adventure, every brushstroke adds depth and excitement to your relationship's masterpiece.

As you pack your bags with the usual suspects – swimwear, sunglasses, and that novel you're finally going to read – don't forget to pack the most important thing: an open heart ready for adventure. Whether you're a vanilla newbie or a seasoned explorer of erotic lands, there's always something new under the sun (or sheets) to discover.

So, here's to the stolen kisses, the whispered promises, and the shared laughter that awaits. May your vacation be as steamy as a tropical jungle and as sweet as the cocktails you'll toast with. And remember, the real souvenirs are the spicy memories you'll bring back, the ones that will keep you warm on long winter nights and make you smile in the most unexpected moments.

Bon voyage, lovers! May your journey be as exciting as the anticipation, as fulfilling as the fantasies, and as beautiful as the bond you share. Keep the flame alive, the curiosity sparked, and the love ever-growing. After all, the world is your playground – so go ahead, play! 🌹✈️💋

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